Are You Too Old to Divorce?
A couple of years ago, United Kingdom’s The Telegraph reported a trend: an increase in divorce at a later age in life. According to The Wall Street Journal, research conducted by American sociologists found that the divorce rate for those over the age of 50 has doubled since the 1990’s. The divorce rate among the baby-boomer generation is in stark contrast to that of the overall general population, which has been declining since its highest point in the 1980’s. It seems that Al and Tipper Gore, who called it quits after forty years of marriage, aren’t the only ones splitting up after decades of being together. Speaking to an experienced divorce attorney in New York can help clear up any legal questions you might have regarding what your next steps should be.
Reasons For Divorce at a Later Age
Infidelity was cited as one of the top three reasons for splitting up for 27 percent of those surveyed nationally by AARP. And more than half of those in the baby-boomer generation have had at least one prior divorce. The reasons for divorce, however, are not that dissimilar of those stated by younger counterparts, including conflict, isolation, disengagement, and major life changes.
If you or someone you know finds themselves unsatisfied in their marriage and are contemplating divorce, the following issues should be considered before making a decision:
● Are you and your spouse still having fun and enjoying one another’s company? The phases of life – from spouse to parent to grandparent – can take a toll on the marital relationship. It may or may not be too late to find common ground to build upon once again.
● Is the family dynamic keeping the marriage together? It is no secret that many couples remain together “for the children,” however, this often does not solve the underlying issue. Although the ripple effects of divorce go beyond the former spouses, spending some time in thought about the reasons for and against staying together should be contemplated deeply.
● Has intimacy remained a vital part of the relationship?
● Is divorce financially feasible? Even though marital assets are distributed in a divorce, it is important to understand the changes that will occur when it comes to money. Financial independence, retirement, and the ability or inability to work will all be essential factors in this process.
● Can you handle the emotion involved in divorce? Changing living arrangements from cohabiting with your spouse, and possibly children, for decades to possibly living alone, can be a difficult adjustment. Just as important, family alliances may realign post-divorce changing relational dynamics with children, siblings, and even friends.
If, after considering these issues, divorce is still a viable option, an experienced and sensitive New York divorce attorney should be contacted. Despite the difficulties involved in a divorce proceeding, life after divorce can be a happy one. According to the same AARP survey, 80 percent of divorcees aged 40-79 considered themselves extremely happy and satisfied with life.
Contact a New York Divorce Attorney
If you or someone you know is contemplating divorce but is doubtful because age, a knowledgeable divorce attorney should be contacted to obtain legal advice regarding the advantages and disadvantages of the resulting decision made during this phase of life. The family law attorneys at Alatsas Law Firm have a proven track record of excellence, sensitivity and will provide competent advice. Call (718)-233-2903 today to schedule an initial consultation.